When one thinks of love, there can be many images conjured up. You can think of your first love in Kindergarten, or your 5th-grade crush or your first love in High School. The latter may be a much more painful memory than the first two mentioned.
So where do you form your thoughts about love in the first place? Did it come from watching Disney movies or from sappy romance novels that you read? Did it come from your version of your parents’ marriage or of your grandparents’ marriage? If you were lucky enough to witness those for a great length of time, you were lucky.
My Parents’ 67-year Legacy
My siblings and I have been lucky enough to witness my parent’s 67 years of marriage. We remember what it looked like as a young child, a young adult, to be full-fledged adults. I’m sure our perspective of it changed over the years.
I used to wonder why they were married in the first place. I imagined they didn’t really like each other because they were fighting a lot. Then I realized one day, they were fighting over me and my behaviors. I think it became even clearer when I had my own children and I noticed how my husband I fought more over the kids’ behaviors.
It’s funny how a perspective can change with a circumstance. It may not have been that anything else changes, it could be just the way we are looking at the situation. For instance, in today’s society, it seems much easier to let marriages go by the wayside. In the past, people hung in there until the end, until death did them part. Now, marriages seem pretty disposable.
What does love have to do with it? I’m not really sure. In other countries, marriages are arranged and the love comes after. With young love, it is a stronger feeling, but maybe less permanent. We all have a different perspective based upon what we felt as love, saw as love or experienced as love. Let’s remember that others are watching what our version of love looks like. Let’s help them to aim higher.
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